Once You Say It, You Cannot Take It Back

We’ve all had those moments when we are talking to someone that we care about and love. We really let them have it with brutal honesty and harsh words with no holding back, thinking that being straight no chaser without any padding is the way to go. But what happens when you cross the line of no return and you can’t take the words back? How does one repair the relationship and the damage?

I have learned from personal experience that sometimes, its better to leave things unsaid. That is because you can ruin a very close friendship or relationship by being too brutally honest. I mean, we all say that we want the truth and nothing but. But when the truth hits you in the face in the form of a tongue lashing, most people do not react pleasantly. It can be a tough spot to move from for everyone concerned.

Once words are out there in the universe, you cannot take them back. Memories linger and words manifest themselves in ways we may not be able to deal with. I have had this happen in my own life where I was asked to give my honest assessment about something and I did so, only for the person to completely cut me out of their life. It was a harsh reality that I dare not want to repeat again, so I now think before I speak, and use my words with caution.

Words hurt, even when there is honesty and truth involved. If you are asked to be honest about an opinion or a situation, I ask you to ask yourself if it is really worth it. If it is, then by all means, let the person have it without regret. But if you are even slightly unsure, moving forward with these words can cause pain for BOTH parties involved.

I am writing this post because very recently, I said a few things to someone that I hold very close to me. I let them know how I felt about a situation, but I learned from the past not to go too far, no matter how upset or mad I am. It is not worth losing someone. And apologies only go so far—if the person doesn’t accept your apology, then what?

Once you say it, you cannot take it back. Use your words to heal, not to inflict pain. We all can spew venom with our mouths, but it takes a better person to not allow that to overtake a relationship. Communicate effectively and with love.

What you put out is what you may get back. Be prepared to live with the consequences.

What are your experiences with honesty and opinion when it comes to your loved ones? I’d like to hear your feedback.