Life is a crazy roller coater full of ups and downs and ins and outs. Sometimes the course in front of us is uncharted and unknown. Other times, the plan that we created may call for a detour or two before we reach our ultimate goal. Having people in our lives that we can count on in good times and in bad times make all the difference, but what if you don’t have a solid support system in your corner backing you up? What does one do?
For many years, I was without a support system. I come from a small family and as an only child, I didn’t have anyone to lean on during difficult times. I often retreated within in order to deal with difficulties. Not wanting to bother anyone or show any vulnerability. It was such a load to carry on my own, but this was only because I refused to humble myself to those around me who loved me and cared about me.
Having a support system is key to overall emotional health. The support system could come in terms of religious faith. It could come in the form of counseling. And of course solid support can be found in those that love us; family and friends.
If you are lacking a support system, look to others in your community if you feel that it cannot be found in your immediate circle. Spirituality can also give you the support you need to get through any situation.
I was speaking with a relative recently who said she felt that she had no support system, which caused me to think about reflecting on those that are in my life currently. While I didn’t have a strong support system earlier in my life, it was only in my head because my family had always been there for me. I was just too afraid to go to them for help.
Having a strong support system in your life is critical. Not having one could cause one to be unhappy and unfocused. What type of support system do you have in your life? Who are your biggest supporters and cheerleaders?
Chivonne says
Good Post!! Very, very, Good. I suffered from "Only Child Super Single Mommy-dom" (before getting married in 2008)…in retrospect, I made it much harder on myself than I needed to by trying to take on the world with just my two hands…
Izzo says
I know the feeling. I'm going through the most difficult time in my life and I have no one but God to rely on. It sucks.